WARNING: this post contains explicit language –
I didn’t give a F**k about giving the rest *’s
Anyone who knows me can attest to these three things:
1. I swear… a LOT (NotSorry Dad)
2. I am a fuck-giver…on so many ridiculous levels (cushions anyone?)
3. I am capable of being brutally honest and telling others to stop giving a Fuck…
This Easter long weekend I was put to shame and exposed as a hypocrite. By some woman I don’t even know but already want to slap, or worship; Sarah Knight. Name dropping is lame by my standards, but if you don’t know her book by now you’ve been living under a rock.
The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving A F**k is well worth the purchase if not purely for the humour and writing style, then for some serious steps to fuck-giving enlightenment. For someone who is also a perfectionist, who has showered fucks rather liberally throughout the last 20 years (with unnecessary generosity for one particular soul), it was a blessing to read page after page of what felt like my subconscious talking to me. I laughed aloud plenty of times. And savoured the ability to tell my cringing mother that the word ‘fuck’ was used on EVERY page OVER and OVER again. I used the word a couple of extra times for effect, and blamed its impact on print.
For those of you who have any interest in ‘tidying up your fuck-drawer’, as she puts it, give this book a once-over. The greatest gifts it gave me was to feel better about not really giving many fucks about loads of things (that ‘self-high-five’ feeling) with the opposed crash of shame realising how very MANY fucks I gave to ridiculous things, and undeserving PEOPLE! (I will tackle my fucks regarding how the pillows look on the bed LAST thank you very much).
She begins by introducing two steps of the NotSorry Method (#notsorry)
1. deciding what you don’t give a fuck about, and then
2. not giving a fuck about those things.
So. Damned. Simple.
I was actually pissed that I hadn’t managed to get around this earlier in my life.
Other things I learned reading the book were sorting my fucks into categories, criteria for ‘should or should not give’, keys to not becoming an asshole (one of her very strong standpoints) and lastly…. the importance of making (and sticking to) a Fuck Budget.
Yep. A Fuck Budget.
Finding where my energy, time and money was being wasted and learning to allocate them effectively is gratifying on so many levels – fuck you for being so right Sarah. And I urge you to give it a crack even before buying her book.
If you’re stuck… I picked a few of mine
- wearing makeup
- having brand-named clothing
- keeping an exercise schedule
- having a ‘normal’ job,
- wanting ‘normal’ as a lifestyle
- things in my house and my closet that no longer serve me
- having a beauty routine
- ….. etc.FUCKS ALLOCATED:
- what other people think ( I’m still working on her number one rule)
- my cat
- my digestive health
- my mental health
- food as medicine
- my closest friends
- my plants
- cushions – I’m working on it
- being a life coach and entrepreneur
My list has taken up multiple pages in my journal, with (very satisfying) strikeouts through a good third of them. I intend to keep going. Because it is a truly liberating experience and is teaching me more about myself as I proceed.
Allocate a fuck or two to this book for your own Wellbeing.